Update! 'I got the harsh and cold side of her': Ungrateful sister unleashes wrath on her sibling over spilled milk

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    Font - "She wasn't like that with me so I called her out on it in front of my brothers and her husband"
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    Font - AITA for calling my sister for treating her child better then me My sister taken my brothers and I in when we were just ( 4f 5m 6m) and she was only 19 at the time and did sacrifice alot for us including her boyfriend she been with since she was 12 who broke up with her when he found out that she'd be applying for custody of us because he wasn't ready to take on such a responsibility. My sister at one point in time was working 3 jobs to even be able to provide for us, I never went without
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    Font - But the one thing I went without was growing up in a nurturing environment, my sister was always stressed and irritable, I also felt like she had resentment towards us at times for having to be stuck with us rather then pursuing her dreams. Like for example if we did something as small as spilling a glass of milk or breaking something she'd have an over reaction yell and lecture us about how hard she works to get it and how we need to stop being so careless even if it was just an accident
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    Font - My sister is now doing much better in life and no longer have to work and is happily married, she has a 2 year old and is pregnant with her 2nd, I seen how she treats them and I can tell she loves them very much, I even watched her toddler spilled a glass a milk and she was so clam and loving about it, she even jumped on this new gentle parenting trend. She wasn't like that with me so I called her out on it in front of my brothers and her husband I told her that it's unfair that I didn't
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    Font - My brothers surprisingly stood up for her and told me that If she that bad then why am I still living with her and that she was amazing caretaker and took us when our own mother abandoned us so how could I be so selfish and accused her of any less. It got really contentious so my sister ended up excusing herself to her room but in the end my brother whom I'm really close too are angry with me. So now I'm here wondering if I was wrong for calling my sister out.
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    Font - Baileythenerd. 17 hr. ago 24 Colo-rectal Surgeon [45] (+) YTA- Your sister. Dropped her whole life at 19 to take care of THREE kids? I understand being upset at having a less than perfect childhood, but childhood doesn't magically stop at 18. She was still a kid when she was taking care of you three. No she was stressed and having major difficulty! And now you're looking at her, finally able to be an adult without the frantic panic and you resent her for now having the support to take car
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    Font - OkieLady1952 - 16 hr. ago YTA I wanted to add her other option is that she didn't take her younger siblings in and they were placed in a foster home. You should be praising your sister for her selfless sacrifice she made for you all. Instead you Criticized her for her lack of patience with you and your siblings during that difficult time. You need an enlightenment to appreciate what you have instead of being focused on what you didn't have 9.2k Reply Share
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    Font - ChiefTuk 17 hr. ago Your stressed out, overworked, teenage sister wasn't the nurturing parent she's become as an adult, so you want her to treat her kids the same way? Christ, YTA. You should be apologizing, thanking her for giving up so much for you & praising her for somehow becoming a wonderful mother. 9.6k Reply Share
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    Font - mubi_merc 17 hr. ago . YTA. Let's recap: at 19, your sister took sole custodianship of her 3 siblings, a task that very few 19 year-olds would even be capable of, let alone willing to do. From your description, she basically killed herself making sure you all got by and apparently did well enough that you are all still around and that she was able to finally start focusing on herself and starting her own family after giving up all of her 20s for you. And you're calling her out for not bei
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    Font - I hope this is fake because I'm absolutely disgusted by it. The only excuse here is that you're still too young to fully understand the weight of this kind of responsibility. But think about it this way, in 2 years, would you be ready to fully care for 3 young children and provide for them while not being stressed out? If not, then go apologize. 5.9k Reply Share
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    Font - lordofloam edited 16 hr. ago Man the experience you went through sucked. But you blaming your sister for not being able to be a proper parent at 19 when she was not prepared to handle three children is a bit entitled. 17 hr. ago. You did deserve a happy family environment. You got what she was capable of giving. You're 17. Imagine doing what she had to do right now. Three children, and sacrificing her relationship and youth to make sure you weren't indigent. Be a bit more gracious to her.
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    Font - names-suck 13 hr. ago . I'd actually go with NAH. Your sister did an amazing thing imperfectly. She stepped up to care for you, and she did the best she could at the time. She was stressed, struggling to afford life, probably sleep deprived, grieving her relationship and dreams, if not her parents (what happened to dad? what does "mom abandoned us" mean? etc), and overall probably in a pretty terrible place, mentally. She genuinely tried to do the right thing, and she did the best she cou
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    Font - Now, she has 13 years of experience, financial stability, and a co-parent. Her situation has changed drastically, and that allows her to put her best foot forward in a way that she simply couldn't, when you were younger. Your resentment is 100% fair, but also, 99% misplaced. You absolutely did deserve to be raised with the same level of warmth, care, and patience that you now see her giving to her kid. That's true. You're not wrong to be upset that you didn't get it. It's just that she wo
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    Font - Then again, it's not like you were responsible for that situation. Then again, it's not like she was responsible for it, either. You don't mention what happened to your dad, but your mom abandoned both of you. Your sister did her best to pick up the pieces, so you could have something, but she wasn't able to give you everything you should've had. That's not your sister's fault: It's your mother's fault, for putting both of you in that situation. Be angry at the right person.
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    Font - I could argue YT A on the grounds that you got angry at the wrong person, but then I'd be committing the same error. You're 17, and your role model for emotional control and communication was a stressed- out 19yo who criticized you for making mistakes. Where would you have learned to do better? I think you'd all benefit from some time in therapy. Perhaps you could apologize to your sister for snapping at her, then bring up the idea. Like, I'm guessing this isn't going to be the only thing
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    Update from OP

    Font - Edit - I appreciate everyone replies I still haven't gotten the chance to read all of them but alot of the comments were really helpful in helping me see things in a different perspective. I was clearly in the wrong in this situation and am happy that I was able to recognize it sooner then later, I have since apologized to my sister which she gracefully accepted it. My apology led to us having such a meaningful conversation which I'm glad we were able to have.

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